There are many causes of pain in children with cancer. Cancer cells in the blood or solid tumors in the body can cause bone or tissue pain. Some side effects of cancer treatment, such as mouth or skin sores, can be painful. Tests, like bone marrow aspirates and lumbar punctures, can be painful.
It is important to tell your healthcare team if your child has pain, so they can determine the cause and work with you to create a plan to decrease it as much as possible.
Children of different ages understand and respond to pain differently.
How Children Understand Pain as They Grow
0-3 months
- Children do not seem to understand pain
- Memory it is likely, but not proven
- May show it by kicking or crying
3-6 months
- Sadness and anger are a part of the pain response
6-18 months
- Memory for it exists
- Fearful of painful situations
- Use words like “owie,” “ouchie,” or “boo-boo” to describe
18-24 months
- Use the word “hurt” to describe
- Try to avoid situations or objects that hurt them in the past
- Seek hugs, kisses, and medicine to deal
2-3 years
- Can describe and explain what caused it
3-5 years
- Can describe the level of pain (none, a little, lots)
- Will use distractions and play to relieve it
5-7 years
- Can more clearly describe levels
- Can use coping techniques to distract self from it
- Use positive self-statements, such as “I’m OK”
7-10 years
- Can explain why something hurts
11 years and older
- Can explain that it is the body’s way of telling you that something is wrong
Use of Medicines
Always talk with your healthcare provider before giving your child medication at home. The type and amount of medication and how it is given will depend on the type of pain, your child’s weight, and whether or not your child can take medicine by mouth. The use of a tool, such as a pain scale, may be helpful in monitoring your child. Ask your healthcare provider about which scale they recommend. The goal is to make your child as comfortable as possible.
Helping your Child to be More Comfortable
Parents usually know how to make their child comfortable. You know your child the best. Tell the members of the healthcare team if you think your child has pain and what has helped to make it better in the past.
Some ways that you can help your child feel more comfortable include:
- Distraction – Help your child think or focus on something fun or relaxing. Watching a movie and listening to music are examples of distraction.
- Visual imagery – Have your child picture themself in a safe, relaxing, or fun place.
- Deep breathing – Help the body to relax and can also serve as a distraction.
Using any of these methods may help your child feel more relaxed and have less pain. Ask a member of your healthcare team to talk with you about ways to help your child be more comfortable.